Life
dresses itself in change
the most beautiful garment
For me
So I could dance
The dance of life
with the fire in my heart
I spin with joy
and laughter
till the last breath
Knowing it's merely a moment
of human existence
Filled with excitement
Heart beating fast
I step out of the body
To rich the soil
For the dance
of another
Oh, what a journey
Music:
Memories From Lost Worlds by MusicLFiles
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It is often mentioned- the freedom, the open road in front of you as a young adult.
There are so many possibilities, an open horizon ahead. You feel happy and alive.
At least that is the romantic perception of it, once you are older and go back in your memory.
There are two things I want to say about this:
First. Open horizon is a matter of choice.
Once I was to marry this fear got into me, that what awaits ahead is a narrow path. The path paved by my ancestors ultimately leading to death.
I could not be further from the truth. I believed the “myth”.
The path is narrow as you make it.
I have got to know myself in the past ten years or so, more than I could ever imagine.
While the path of a youngster is open because of the biology of things. Now the horizon broadens because I choose so.
World and life have shown themselves to me through so many different perspectives. And I work my best to embrace them all, to understand, to see.
Finally, it all leads back to me and discovering my potential, talents, limits. As it always has been.
This is not just for teenagers. It can be your whole life.
This leads me to the second point.
Second. Healing the potential pain suppressed in our memory.
If we let that possibility of new and unknown into our life. Or it let itself upon our life by the sudden change that sweeps us from our feet. We can realize something else. There might be something other than sheer happiness that we felt in front of that open road as young adults.
There might be fear:
What awaits me?
Will I live up to my expectations?
Will I live up to the expectations of others?
Will I make it?
Will my parents let me go with trust and confidence in my strength?
Will the world of adults embrace me?
Or will I be the outcast forever to live on the edge of society?
There might be some kind of pain and bad experience associated with our first steps into the open.
Before we had a chance to adapt as best as we could.
Think for a second if these fears might be the reason why you choose “stability”, aka your cocoon, over new and uncharted territory, in your life as an adult. If you pushed down the pain and remember only the “good stuff”. Which is fine until it doesn’t stop you from stepping out of your comfort zone.
Be honest, do you really want to feel like a teenager again?
In front of a new possibility: new job, or position, moving house or country, new love, new you, children growing, loss. Some part of ourselves can feel like teenagers again. Flashes of real memories from the past, not only romantic ones, can emerge into our consciousness. See if there is some fear or pain.
The chance to look at it again with a broader perspective of an adult offers itself to you. Not to mention the advantage of knowing what happened afterward.
We can learn from our actions. Spot irrational fears, because after all, we have survived them. Haven’t we?
It’s a beautiful possibility for healing.
Maybe you ask what is the point.
Well because for one. You might embrace change in your life more willingly. Life is a change (as they say), so why not embrace more life into your life :-)
Second point. When you retrieve the whole memory, you can understand your teenager more. And make it easier on him/her.
At least on your part.
Don’t deny him/her his own experience of it. By comparing it to your false memories.
Be there without judgment or pity. With the heart filled with trust. And let them go.
Leaving the door open so they can come and brag about their victories won outside in the BIG world.
