RESCUER / PERSECUTOR / VICTIM
In business, as in life, we are faced with a dangerous triangle, which is a downward spiral. This triangle is entered into by choice by players who tend to swap roles. A good example is an employee who whines that he doesn’t earn enough money, (VICTIM) so the boss becomes the RESCUER and ups the employee’s salary for no good reason. As you know, we will never have enough money, so within a short period of time the employee, who still produces the same amount of work, wants more money.
At this point the boss realizes that he’s paying more but not getting more value, so he puts his foot down and refuses the increase. Now the employee moves his position from VICTIM to PERSECUTOR and starts blaming the boss for being a money-hungry slave driver. The boss falls into VICTIM mode and starts whining, “I can’t afford more! I can’t find good people! They take advantage of my kindness!”
http://www.evancarmichael.com/Sales/445/Rescuer-Victim-or-Persecutor.html
At this point the boss realizes that he’s paying more but not getting more value, so he puts his foot down and refuses the increase. Now the employee moves his position from VICTIM to PERSECUTOR and starts blaming the boss for being a money-hungry slave driver. The boss falls into VICTIM mode and starts whining, “I can’t afford more! I can’t find good people! They take advantage of my kindness!”
http://www.evancarmichael.com/Sales/445/Rescuer-Victim-or-Persecutor.html
