https://lastbloggers.com/7-years-to-eternity-or-to-nothing/
They say friendship that lasts 7 years, lasts an eternity. But is that really the case?
How often do you come across people who have been friends for a lifetime now? I mean, they have been inseparable and did every damn thing together, right from going to kindergarten together to schooling, to finally universities, maybe together or maybe not, but haven’t let that bond of theirs weaken even a bit but grew it even stronger. Let us not take up the example of Elle Evans and Lee Flynn. We both know that is just fiction, at its best.
How often do you come across people who have been friends for a lifetime now? I mean, they have been inseparable and did every damn thing together, right from going to kindergarten together to schooling, to finally universities, maybe together or maybe not, but haven’t let that bond of theirs weaken even a bit but grew it even stronger. Let us not take up the example of Elle Evans and Lee Flynn. We both know that is just fiction, at its best.
Friendships that begin in childhood are so unpolluted, but as we, you and me, grow up, we realize that we do not want the same things anymore and we do not want the same people in our lives anymore. We do not want to do the stuff we did together anymore. And that is where I guess, paths start to split.
You can not just grow physically in a friendship or even a relationship. You need to grow together and put effort into understanding each other more. Because now, it is not just about which game to play or which song to do a karaoke, it would now be about crushes, love, heartbreaks, aspirations, and goals. Your minds need to develop such that even if you think differently now, there should be some overlapping so that you can connect, the way you did before.
You do not have to keep the ‘best mates’ tag intact if you are unhappy in the situation; just because the world knows you are ‘best mates’. It is absolutely okay to think about yourself first and detach when you think you do not belong here anymore.
There is research that proves that people need to be right more than they need to be happy. Because that is the crux right? How can you possibly be happy if you are not right, at least according to yourself? Imagine that. You would have that woebegone look all the time on your face, making it age faster than it should. ( You and I both know of that one thing that gets better when aged, and it is definitely not your face.)
So, do not make a dupe of yourself and recognize the relations you want to keep AND simply let go of those who you think are not worth it. It might be difficult, but not impossible.
So, do not make a dupe of yourself and recognize the relations you want to keep AND simply let go of those who you think are not worth it. It might be difficult, but not impossible.
And do remember, the present does a very good job of changing the past.
